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cellboy ([personal profile] cellboy) wrote2007-09-16 07:22 pm

what do you think?

Coincidently as I was creating this post, I had just previewed [livejournal.com profile] tenderandtough's post "Are you the husband or wife? On the same subject of relationships what do you think of this statement?
"Monogamy is a heterosexually devised concept employed by women to keep their men around long enough to help raise and provide for their offspring." You can love and be committed to one person for life, and still have sex with other people."
This opinion was posted on someones sex site profile bio (I have other great quotes that I will share later). What do you think?
Some opinions suggest that "marriage was basically created to protect landholding, chattel, protection for future heirs.
But what of monogamy? I myself, am for it. Isn't spiritual commitment and sexual commitment part of a monogamous relationship? Part of the deal? Or is this just another to each his own, on a case by case basis?
I do know some couples that have been in a happy "committed relationship" for yrs. They would sell their soul for each other. But they have an open relationship. Non-monogamous. They say the "trust" and "bond" is strong, and strengthens every day.
So what do you think? Can gay men have a monogamous relationship?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Open_marriage_relationship

[identity profile] grizzlyzone.livejournal.com 2007-09-17 08:39 am (UTC)(link)
I think it all boils down to one's satisfaction with their sex life. If you are satisfied with your sex life, then there is no need to find anyone else to play with.

If you are unsatisfied with your sex life, then the desire to out and "get some" is strong.

With that being said, relationships work on multiple levels and finding someone who is compatible on all the various levels is going to be rare.

Of course, I'm not speaking as a monogamous heterosexual. I have no idea how they manage.

[identity profile] blackchaps.livejournal.com 2007-09-17 12:39 pm (UTC)(link)
Hubby and I are working on 19 years. We are heterosexual and monogamous, and have an interesting sex life. We were friends for a year before we started dating and we're just always interested in each other, so I don't know if we're exactly normal, but it does happen.