rethinking hookups?

[cellboy]

OK. So lately I have been on a roll with these so called dating sites (don't know why I joined the gym. The hits are pre gym pics of a 1-2 yrs ago (LOL).
But what sort of irks me, is that no one wants to do the sleep over thing. Just a quick romp and run. I can get that at a bookstore or back alley (not really. I'm beyond that). I seem to get luckier at the bars. Those men generally will want to spend the night with you. Which I think is more substantial. I myself feel more complete, and less empty. And needless to say, a post sex cuddle, and even through the night is nice. To me it feels like a more complete picture. Like dotting the i's and crossing the t's. Don't want to marry the guy. Just a nice cuddle. Is anything abnormal about wanting that? And the ones I really want to cuddle with, live thousands of miles away (Murphy's Sex Law). But in the meantime, I guess I will continue to do the hook up thing if opportunities arise. A numbers game you know. ;)

Comments

[jonobear.livejournal.com]

I too LOVE to snuggle, but not with hook ups. In fact I rarely hook up in a bed at all. I very much separate sex with randoms (online, bar..whatnot) from my bedroom. Because in the bedroom I want the person I want to be intimate with. People I actually have feelings for other than attractiveness. I am much more dominant and demanding in my hookups than I am with those I care about. Those are the ones I want to hold and make feel warm. So maybe there are just other guys out there who act like me? I don't know.

[cellboy.livejournal.com]

There are other guys that act like you. They just seem harder to find these days. Maybe they are afraid of any type of commitment. Short term or long term.