A mothers day visit (3 visits in one stop).

[cellboy]

1. Before going to the Eagle Bust today, I made a quick stop at Safeway picked up some flowers, and drove down to Alta Mesa Cemetery in Palo Alto, to place flowers on my moms niche for Mothers Day
2. It was a beautiful ride down. The place was very busy. I initially never quite understood the idea of seeing families picnicking on graves in a cemetery. But after some thought, why not?
3. My mom and dad are side by side, in a niche, so of course the visit is for two of them.
4. I thought about both of them, their faults, and their strengths, and thought how lucky I was to have such wonderful parents. Parents who were not my natural parents, but adoptive parents.
5. And I suddenly remembered talking with my mom maybe a year before she died, telling her how proud I was of her, and all she had done. How well she managed all those years after dad died
6. Her eyes welled up with tears, and thanked me (I was never one to be that expressive at times, with my mom. And I think I shocked her. In a good way. And she really needed to hear that. I'm glad I told her.
7. My next stop not too far away was to my late partner's grave. Again reminiscing.
8. It was not a sad visit. But an uplifting visit. It was a great way to start my afternoon :)

Comments

[fallenandlost76.livejournal.com]

I´m sorry to hear you already lost your mother. I think it´s great that your brought some flowers to her grave on Mother´s Day. And I think it´s good that you told your mother how proud you´re are of her. I think that´s a huge compliment and I´m sure your mother really knew to appreciate it. I´m sure it enlighten her hear to her that from her son. Especial if she wasn´t your natural mother. Often you hear that adopted children and the parents don´t come along that good. Glad to hear it was that different for you and your parents. :-)
I almost don´t dare to ask, you wrote you lost your partner and visited his grave on the same day, too.. I´m really very, very sorry to hear. I think to lose the parents, it´s something more "natural" because they are always older than the child and their death will come first.. but to lose someone you loved, your partner, I can imagine that´s something really, really very bad... may I ask how long ago your partner died and why? Sorry for being that curious, but it just makes me sad and I don´t want just to skip over that without to ask and or comment...

[cellboy.livejournal.com]

Thanks. Well he died long ago in 1997. Of AIDS. Things were so much different then, the newness of it all. It was a scary time, a time of learning, and a time of compassion for many. My how things have changed for the better!
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[fallenandlost76.livejournal.com]

Thank you for your answer. I´m really very sorry to hear. AIDS is such a horrible illness like cancer and kills a lot of people... :-(
Read the entry you gave me the link and I really had tears in the eyes. I´m so sorry that your friend was that sick and that you both had to went thru all that. I´m so sorry for your lose and I can only say you´re a brave and very wonderful man, that you stayed with him, was there for him. Sad is the fact you wasn´t able to say him a last goodbye, but I´m sure he knew what you meant to him, how much you loved him.
Thanks for sharing and I hope you´ll find someone who really loves you, you really deserve it, I think you´re really worth someone who treats you well because you made the proof how much you care for someone you love.